A survey asked ten 100-year-olds what is the biggest mistake they think most people make in life? And almost unanimously, they replied, most people spend their whole life wasting time. We believe we have time.
We think that there's always tomorrow.
But the truth is, time is a costly currency, and once you spend time, you can never get it back. And this is what makes time more valuable than money. You can always get more money, but you can never get more time.
For me, one of the biggest wastes of time in my life was living someone else's version of who I should be. I believe Steve Jobs said it best. Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.
Often, we waste the best years of our lives by trying to live someone else's version of who we should be.
That is the number one thing you should never waste time doing…living your life based on someone else's understanding of who you should be, especially if it is not making you happy… is a waste of time and energy because it will lead to Nothing but regret.
And that leads us to the number two thing that people should not waste time doing, and that is seeking happiness because happiness is not something you see. Happiness is something that you discover, and to discover something means that you're finding something already there.
You see, most people believe that happiness or unhappiness depends on their circumstances, and that is a lie because the primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation. It is always your thoughts and perception of the problem that determines whether you are happy about it or unhappy. So seeking happiness is a total waste of time. If you want to be satisfied, just be satisfied. It's time to stop believing that you are not the key to your happiness.
And that leads us to the third biggest waste of time in life, which is self-doubt. Wasting time doubting your abilities, questioning your worthiness, challenging your true power. When you were a baby, you were not born with doubt. It took years of programming to convince you of what you were not capable of.
You can't do this, you can't do that, you won't be this, you won't be that. All that is a lie, but here's the truth. It is your God-given birthright to be great.
If you can remember the first time that your child could speak and you told them of something they could not do, their first question was, why not? And from here on out, that is the first question you should ask yourself whenever you think you cannot do something. You should ask yourself, why not?
And remember this: at the end of the day, your opinion of yourself matters. And it is that honest opinion that will attract what you get out of life, Nothing more, Nothing less.
And while we're on the subject of opinions and values, that leads us to the fourth thing you should never waste time on in life: the value of other people's opinions that is not providing value to your life.
If you notice, I did not say that no one else's opinion of you should matter because that is just not true. The fact is we are social beings. So other people's opinion of us does matter. However, we make a mistake by allowing people who do not matter to have an opinion that affects us and stops us from achieving our goals. So listen, I care what everyone thinks about me; it just isn't going to be a damn thing.
I want to talk about the most formidable enemy to our future, and though this is number five on our list, it could easily be one, two, three, or four, and that would be … the past. But, unfortunately, most people waste time in a history that does not exist anymore.
We all have experiences that we would like to forget, forgive, or seek forgiveness for in some way, shape or form, but these experiences, once done, should be done.
While real at one time, the past is only a concept or series of thoughts that we give power to.
The longer we allow negative memories to rule our lives, the harder it will become to get rid of them.
Oprah said true forgiveness is giving up the hope that you can change the past, and wow, that is hard but is also a must. So, drop the past. Instead, invest in your present and watch how beautiful your future can be.